I send the seller a note asking them to remove it. I know 80'sguitarshredder has removed it from his listings. He pm'd me on Faceache and we had a good chat about it. I think fleabay have sold it to them as a carefree way of shipping overseas. There is no way of asking for the seller to mark it as gift etc etc.
Also, the shipping company (pitney bowes) unpack your loveingly wrapped article and remove the packaging to reduce weight hence costs. I had some grips arrive in a scabby torn jiffy bag.
If you buy an item via this system leave feedback telling the seller the system sucks.
I did.